Reddit is one of the largest social networks today, boasting over a billion registered users and 430 million monthly users. One of the dominant reasons for its popularity is the existence of around 130,000 subreddits, each catering to different subgroups and interests. From hugely popular topics like r/gaming to those catering to more niche passions like r/lawnpopping (yes, this is a thing), one can say that an internet user will almost certainly find a subreddit that piques their interest.
Oldenburg (1999) writes about the third place, a place that is “inclusively sociable, offering both the basis of community and the celebration of it.”
In this paper we discuss r/AskWomen, a subreddit that doubles up as a third place. The r/AskWomen subreddit is a community for asking and answering questions, created for the benefit of women. Being a thriving community with strict moderation, r/AskWomen makes for a great place to study the many nuances of gender, gender roles, and stereotypes, both practiced and perceived.
In this paper, we use Amy Jo Kim’s “9 Timeless Principles For Building Community” to analyze r/AskWomen’s impact as a community and the role that its moderation plays in shaping it. We also present the perspectives of ten members of the community who agreed to interview with us and speak about their involvement in r/AskWomen.


